If you keep finding yourself single despite wanting a relationship, losing interest when someone likes you, pursuing people who aren't really available, or finding perfectly reasonable excuses to avoid getting closer, there may be a pattern you haven't seen yet.
Download the free Avoidant Attachment Workbook and use it to identify your own arm's-length patterns and decide what you're going to do differently.
Identify the behaviours you use to create distance
Spot the gap between what you say you want and what your behaviour produces
Choose one pattern to deliberately reverse
Create a practical 7-day experiment
Clarify the warning signs you want to remember
Stop trying harder at the same strategy.
If the way you're approaching connection isn't producing the connection you want, it's worth stepping back and looking at the pattern.